Manners and Etiqutte

[mjscookie]

Or, there could be lung-style.

It's dropped off a bit lately, but typically, 1st to post/show interest 1st in line etc. Walk down the list....

You get duped and the seller/duper gets a few weeks off (or uses the good old print method)

Mitch

[emiee]

[quote:fce867418f]Or, there could be lung-style.

It's dropped off a bit lately, but typically, 1st to post/show interest 1st in line etc. Walk down the list.... [/quote:fce867418f]
Again the rules are not always enforced there or maybe it depends who the seller is.


i agree with this whole thread but do believe the onus is on the members more than the mods.
[quote:fce867418f]its like anywhere you go these days theres still alot of genuine, honest people, but at the same time theres alot pricks that dont care about anything or anyone but themself and they dont give a ---- about who they cut/rip off to get what they want...[/quote:fce867418f]
[quote:fce867418f]I'm a believer in Karma - what goes around, comes around, eventually someone gets there comeuppence.[/quote:fce867418f]
these two comments go hand in hand, word of mouth can be damaging so what goes around will come around... but on the other hand word of mouth works both ways
[quote:fce867418f]thankfully matt is a top bloke and he kept them for me[/quote:fce867418f]

[DeagonTheo]

Well it looks like this has caused a bit of a stir, which I knew it would, because I've seen these things happen on here quite often, luckily its only happened to me once.

Because of the nature of the net it would be very hard for moderators to police this sort of behaviour as you just cant see whats going on.

What it all boils down to as I said in the start of this post, is manners , etiquette and maybe a bit of common decency.

Maybe now the perpetrators have been exposed a little bit, they will slow down although I doubt it.

Theo

[gingerbeer]

I agree with emiee.  It is common in society to try and blaim the "leaders" rather than take personal responsability for the actions.  Themn if the leaders take drastic action they are branded mini hitlers for the action.  Good luck to the leaders.

Steve

[Savage_roo]

What realy gets me is when u ring about a tank
You Tell the guy you want it and u will be over in 30 minets
And when u get there he is loading it in some 1's car
Now that pisses me off
And getting a pm from some smart ass tell u that u r lucky u deleated ya post ( u know who u r)
Yep it is there and its not getting any better
and some people have no sence of humer
So Its first in best dressed so take a number

Andrew

[here fishie fishie]

I am not blaming the moderators either, thanks Steve. I know in the case of grummy that he has alot on his plate at the moment, so can't always be here. Theo mentioned manners, etiquette... such & covered it very well. With the help of the moderators it can run alot smoother. My point was that if they see something on the forum of bad forum delete it. It will hopefully help those with bad form to realise there mistake or if not they just piss off to another forum. Hang on, that used to happen in the old days  :lol:
It is a 2 way street sometimes.

We all have bad luck stories with buyers, that is why I deal mostly with LFS. Befriended a couple makes my life on this topic easy.

Frenchy :D

[gingerbeer]

Frenchy - Sorry but it is not all about you. :roll:

I was actually thinking at the time off other sites in other states that moderate tighter than this site and the mods there are believed to be too strict, This site is not as tight and has other problems.  

I do take your point about "tighter" modding helping avoid problems, but then again there is something nice about a looser atmosphere.    

Steve

[Tabbycat]

I can be thankful this has not happend to me yet. I think the moderators do a great job here and i don't think it is their fult at all. This place would not be the place it is with all these great people if they pulled the ropes tighter. It comes down to the people buying and selling. I was there with Roo when we went to get that tank and could not believe we had droped everything to rush right over to get it just to watch him loading it into another car  :evil: . I am a great believer in what goes around comes around and karma will get them in the end.

[Savage_roo]

Ya most of the people do the right thing
The mods r  there to watch over things
Glen caught Lungies last post that was over the top
 They do a good job and with out them this form would fall in to disaray

So good good job guys ( ya i'm a suck up too lmao)

Andrew

[GTR73]

I've had people offer me more for my fish after I've already committed to selling them to someone else. But I do the righty and tell the second-comer that, too bad they're already sold.
Sure I'm grimacing that I could've got a few more measly dollars, but it comes down to integrity and good morals doesn't it? Having some principle and as Theo put it, some good manners, seperates us humans from the rest of the animals on the planet.

It's not too hard to be civilised and if we all acted decently the Mods wouldn't have to police these things.

[Ulysses048]

Yep - I was dudded by a couple of forum members recently too - don't have to go into detail - they know who they are ... but let's not turn the forum into a whinge and bitch session ... I have just put it down to experience .... and "experience is a journey - not a destination".
My 2c worth .....

[smiley]

but ive found so far the good outweigh the so so by a lot   ive made some good friends and most people ive met here have been very friendly and helpful. Like most bad eggs people soon find out about em and they just slowly disappear  people talk and share which is the entire purpose of these forums.   peter

[DeagonTheo]

I wouldnt say we're turning the forum into a whinge and bitch session, rather unleashing our frustrations occasionally, which I dont think does any harm, and lets other people know they're not the only ones getting the raw prawn.

Also, it lets those who arent playing the game know that we are onto them, and to the ones who have some kind of feelings, at least cause some embarrassment.

It would be nice if we could all be like the North Koreans and act happy and wave a little flag around all the time, but we're free and have the right to vent our frustrations occasionally.

Theo

[Muttley]

[quote:99cb1074f6]I'm a believer in Karma - what goes around, comes around, eventually someone gets there comeuppence.[/quote:99cb1074f6]

Thats exactly what I believe in.

Hi Guys,

I've been a member & regular user of this forum since it was started and I must say, the good experiences and friends I have made over the years who share my passion for fish has far outweighed the few negative experiences. I take people as I find them, and the few who have taken advantage of that or tried to, have simply not been allowed another opportunity.

I love the way everybody on this forum is welcome to have input into discussions which is respected even though they may be the "devil's advocate" in a discussion ~ I have just this week been permanently banned from a  Southern based forum for daring to challenge their administrators over deleting my post telling a Brisbane based member of theirs about the upcoming superauction as a good place to buy display sized africans at good prices (they seemed to feel that aquarium clubs and their functions were a challenge to their own classifieds and dispensing of expert knowledge).

We seem to face bad people and negative experiences in all aspects of our lives nowadays, but I personally believe we have a pretty good forum membership and admin here, and I for one get a great deal of satisfaction and enjoyment from being a member.


Cheers, Doug